The time to consider marriage counseling is not when one (or both) people have already thrown in the towel. For instance, in some relationships, when one or both partners have already decided to end the marriage, they may use counseling as a “safe space” to drop the news on their spouse. This is obviously not the best timing to attempt counseling.Sometimes issues are too ingrained and longstanding for counseling to be truly effective. If a couple has been building up resentment toward one another for five or more years before seeking help, it may be too late.
It is impossible to have a relationship in which there is never need for an apology. Being in relationships with others means risking the possibility that we will be hurt or disappointed AND that we will hurt and disappoint others. Most of the time, the pain we cause is not intentional.
Have you ever been in a relationship that seems to be stuck in an endless loop of repetitive arguments? Does it feel futile to even try to talk it out?
There are many different types of depression: ➿Major Depression ➿Bipolar Depression ➿Premenstrual Dysphoria ➿Dysthymia aka Persistent Depression (Just to name a few). Each type of depression is different, and each one has a spectrum of severity.
Working with hundreds of people has brought me to a strong truth - many of the most disruptive patterns in our lives come from a fear of being disliked. Our anxieties, our difficulty boundary setting, our shame.
Validation is telling someone that you believe that what they say is true for them. Validation isn't needed to CREATE legitimacy, because the legitimacy os already there.
Happy Friday, Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT My name is Dr. S. Kay Webb and I am the creator of Unscripted Relationships. In Western culture, we are embedded in cultural scripts that tell us how to perform romantic relationships.
I want to talk about the “mental load” today. This post might make some people feel uncomfortable but it’s really important for individual and relational health.
Rituals are structured events or routines that you can rely on in your relationship. A special aspect of rituals is that if they are strong they get passed down. Rituals make an imprint on life beyond you. Rituals include:- big rituals around things like holidays and birthdays.
So many of us view self care as a luxury. A day at the spa, a day playing hookie from work or school, a vacation away from responsibilities. While these are some ways to practice self care, they are not a sustainable practice for most people.
Let’s talk about body language! Therapists talk A LOT about communication and its impact on relationships. We spend time talking about the best way to speak your truth.
Unlike most of my skills that have deteriorated with age - nailing cartwheel splits, remembering the names of people I meet five minutes after they introduce themselves, and sleeping through the night - my ability to form and keep good friends has improved over time.
"I feel like I'm terrible at my job. Why did they hire me?" "I'm unhappy but I don't think things can change." "I can't believe they would want to date me." "I'm just not good enough." Have you ever struggled with thoughts like these?
“Red light. Green Light. Red light! GREEN light!!”
A game built on keen surveillance and forethought towards those agile enough to try and get past you.In reflecting on the game now, and noticing how it appears in our adult lives: Are we still playing this game?
Recently, vulnerability has gotten a lot of coverage in the media due to Brené Brown's research and popularity. Her books, Tedtalks, and Super Soul Sunday interview, have brought a very important conversation about the power of vulnerability (and of shame) on our ability to connect.
Through my work with couples, I have found that there are particular behaviors that are especially harmful in relationships. The most harmful of the behaviors is a sense of disrespect towards your partner. Many times, I find that people don't recognize that their behaviors are disrespectful towards their partner.
I worked abroad in an orphanage teaching English and upon my return completed my degree in organizational development and teaching. However, I recognized that I much preferred developing one-on-one relationships with my students and their families and that teaching and managing a group of children was a talent I did not have.
This blog is bound to contain a lot of material you probably have found in other mommy blogs: Tales of extreme fatigue, piles of laundry, leaky boobs, spasmodic tears, weight gain, baby blues, hormonal rages. If the subjects are familiar, however, it is because these maternal miseries are so universal. My hope is that by sharing my experience, some of you will find comfort in knowing that there are others out there who are muddling through this adventure and at times, feeling just as overwhelmed.
