Marriage Counseling
Seeking help from a marriage counselor is not unlike seeking help from a mechanic. It makes little sense to take your car into the shop a month after it started making a horrific noise. By that time, too much damage may have been done and your engine may be beyond repair. By the same token, the effectiveness of marriage counseling is directly related not only to the willingness and motivation of both parties to put in the effort, but also to the timing.
The time to consider marriage counseling is not when one (or both) people have already thrown in the towel. For instance, in some relationships, when one or both partners have already decided to end the marriage, they may use counseling as a “safe space” to drop the news on their spouse. This is obviously not the best timing to attempt counseling.Sometimes issues are too ingrained and longstanding for counseling to be truly effective. If a couple has been building up resentment toward one another for five or more years before seeking help, it may be too late.
While counseling is a wonderful way to help couples reconnect and heal, it is not a miracle cure.
When and How Marriage Counseling Can Help
It’s important that both individuals truly want the relationship to work. When both parties are willing to invest time and energy, marriage counseling can be the catalyst for real and lasting change. It is also important that couples choose a therapist who’s a good fit. Both spouses must feel comfortable with the therapist for any progress to be made. So, how exactly can marriage counseling help? In a number of ways:
Counselors help couples identify toxic behavioral patterns and give them tools to make adjustments.
Each partner can gain new insights and perspective into the relationship.
Tools help couples resolve conflicts with grace and respect so escalation can be avoided.
Partners can begin to build trust and improve communication.
If you and your spouse decide to try marriage counseling, here are some tips for success:
Take it seriously. Commit to the work and do it.
Be open. If you’ve chosen the right therapist, you should feel free and safe to discuss your true feelings and needs. Don’t hold back. In order for therapy to work, both people have to have the courage to be vulnerable.
Avoid the blame game. Each person must take responsibility for their part.
Be realistic about how long it will take before real change begins. While you can begin using tools immediately, healing won’t happen overnight.
If you and your partner are experiencing marital problems, don’t wait to get help. The sooner you do, the more likely your issues can be resolved. If you or a loved one is interested in exploring treatment, contact us today. Our marriage therapists would be happy to set up an appointment with you or offer a consultation.
We offer marriage counseling in person and online.
For in person sessions, we currently have offices in Philadelphia, Ardmore, and Easton, PA. We are always adding new offices so if you don’t live near one of those areas feel free to send us an email to find out if we are offering it closer to you.
For online sessions, therapists are required to hold a license in the state where their client lives in order to support them. Our therapists currently have licenses in Delaware, Pennsylvania, New Jersey, New York, and Utah. We are always adding new licenses so you can always ask us if we are currently serving your state.
In Person Offices
Ardmore, Pennsylvania
10 East Athens Ave
Ardmore, PA
Easton, Pennsylvania
Simons Silk Mill
641 North 13th Street
Easton, PA
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania (Center City)
100 S Broad Street
Philadelphia, PA
How do I choose a marriage counselor?
You can look through our therapist list here, email our office at info@abetterlifetherapy.com or call 267-838--0066.
You can also use our therapist match form to fill in your preferences and we will send you a recommendation!