Through my work with couples, I have found that there are particular behaviors that are especially harmful in relationships. The most harmful of the behaviors is a sense of disrespect towards your partner. Many times, I find that people don't recognize that their behaviors are disrespectful towards their partner.
Read MoreI worked abroad in an orphanage teaching English and upon my return completed my degree in organizational development and teaching. However, I recognized that I much preferred developing one-on-one relationships with my students and their families and that teaching and managing a group of children was a talent I did not have.
Read MoreAfter undergrad, I started out in Boston as a Preschool Teacher. I adored working with the children, although teaching did not seem to fit my developing interests. I thoroughly enjoyed connecting with the families, engaging with them outside of the classroom whenever possible, and getting to know their diverse cultural backgrounds & experiences.
Read MoreI’ve wanted to be a therapist my entire life. I honestly can’t remember a time when I thought about doing anything else. My parents love to tell stories about how, even as a little girl, I would pull up a chair when they argued and explain to them what they needed to do to solve their conflicts.
Read MoreI believe the best time to seek counseling is when you begin to realize that you’re feeling unsatisfied, stuck or confused in regards to your relationships. We all experience periods when we may feel unhappy, lonely, anxious or distressed. This is what it means to be human!
Read MoreIt’s easy to fall into the trap of cliched New Year’s resolutions: lose weight, save more, drink less, exercise, get rid of the 748,923 New Yorkers collecting dust under your coffee table that you swore you would read before you made last year’s resolution. I want to offer you an alternative.
Read MoreDivorce is an extremely stressful period for many couples. It can be drawn out in litigation, with lawyers encouraging each of their clients to run the other through the ringer to get the best settlement. In the end, the emotions that arise post-divorce; the fear, the uncertainty, and the anxiety, can be crippling for both parties.
Read MoreDr. John Gottman's research found that a pivotal part of a healthy and long lasting relationship is a couple's sense of shared meaning: an explicit and implicit commitment to the relationship and believing your partner is there to support and understand your life dreams and goals (these life dreams and goals include an understanding of the relationship).
Read MoreThe term seems to show up almost everywhere we look! So… is it really worth all the hype? In my opinion – the short answer is Yes! Mindfulness can be a simple, effective practice in reducing stress, managing emotional regulation/moods, improving focus, and even in helping with relationship interactions.
Read MoreHere is what I remember about her:
She ate salami, watched baseball on tv and swore fluently. She visited infrequently, even though she lived less than 30 miles away, and when she did come over, our house seemed to stiffen its spine.
When I conjure her image, I am not in the scene.
Read MoreThis blog is bound to contain a lot of material you probably have found in other mommy blogs: Tales of extreme fatigue, piles of laundry, leaky boobs, spasmodic tears, weight gain, baby blues, hormonal rages. If the subjects are familiar, however, it is because these maternal miseries are so universal. My hope is that by sharing my experience, some of you will find comfort in knowing that there are others out there who are muddling through this adventure and at times, feeling just as overwhelmed.
Read MoreWhile looking for a therapist, you may have noticed the "alphabet soup" that comes after each therapist's name. You're probably wondering what all of those letters mean. It may feel overwhelming to make sense of the many different professional backgrounds and credentials.
Read MoreWhat if I told you that you could reduce stress, anxiety, and depression, make better lifestyle choices, increase motivation and improve interpersonal relationships all with one activity? Sounds like a seedy infomercial, right?
Read MoreDuring relationship expert John Gottman's research he has found 4 behaviors that failing marriages exhibit: criticism, stonewalling, defensiveness, and contempt. Gottman titled these behaviors the "4 Horseman of the Apocolypse" as they often signal that the end of the relationship is near if things do not change.
Read MoreThrough years of research, John Gottman has found that there are four major predictors of divorce: stonewalling, contempt, criticism, and defensiveness. These 4 communication styles are known as "The 4 Horseman of The Apocolypse" in couples therapy because they quickly lead to the breakdown of a relationship.
Read MoreThe discovery of an affair is gut wrenching. For many the pain and betrayal is too much to overcome and the relationship will never fully recover. However, relationship researchers like John Gottman and Esther Perel have found that an affair doesn’t always need to be the nail in the coffin. In fact, many of my couples have used the affair experience as a catalyst for improving and strengthening their relationship.
Read MoreRelationships are integral to life. Beginning in the womb, our lifeline is the umbilical cord attached to our mother. Once born, we scan for caregivers, crying for them and latching to them. As we grow we look for other people to accept and attach to us - friends, teachers, and strangers.
Read MoreEvery week I support client's that are struggling to manage a divorce, separation, or break up. My client's often feel very alone in their experience. However, I have found that most clients have common reactions at the end of their relationship.
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