How to Solve The “Why Didn’t You Just Ask?” Argument Once and For All

Although in most U.S. households couples share financial burdens, the role of Director of Home Life Operations still is mostly taken on by the identified woman in the relationship. According to research, women spend 37% more on unpaid household work than men. However, this statistic only covers the visible work — laundry, cooking meals, or cleaning up the living room. It doesn’t account for the mental load that women also primarily carry, often described as “the remembering to remember.” The burden of this work became more apparent when 900,000 women left the workforce due to the COVID-19 pandemic because it just wasn’t possible for them to fit all of the homework and work work into one day.

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Elizabeth Earnshaw
Can I do couples therapy with a friend?

The work in friendship therapy would be very similar to the work done in family or couples therapy. As friends, you would come in and meet with the therapist. During the first session, the therapist will guide you through a series of questions and prompts to better understand each of you and your relationship as a whole. They might explore topics like:

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Elizabeth Earnshaw
Internalized Capitalism + Mental Health

A few years ago we still lived in what I would call "hustle culture". In this time- it was encouraged, thought of as normal, that people should have multiple jobs including at least one "side hustle”. The glorification of hustle culture led to people being more overworked, and the problem of capitalism not meeting people's basic needs being completely overlooked.

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