Consider this statement. It is simple, yet powerful. In fact, it describes most people. We are egocentric beings - we live within our own minds and it can be challenging to step out of our own experience and our own urge to respond in order to actually hear.
Read MoreSetting boundaries early in your relationships sets the stage for a partner that knows how to be successful for you. No one knows what you want or need unless you say it.
Read More"Ghosting" is when someone you're dating cut off the relationship by cutting off all communication without any explanation. This post isn't geared towards being ignored after a first or second date.
Read MoreIf you imagine your relationship as a house then trust and commitment are the walls keeping everyone warm inside and holding up the roof. Without them a relationship will not make it because it will not have a home.
Read MoreConflict is bound to happen in your relationships - if it doesn’t then you’re a unicorn and I’d love to hear from you. The way that you “kiss and makeup” afterwards determines whether the conflict deepens your connection and intimacy or creates resentment and unhealed wounds.
Read MoreAre you being hard on yourself right now? Critical? I want you to read this and take it in: You are a human being. You will not and can not always prevent shortcomings, failures, and mistakes.
Read More“Small things often” is the mantra that happy and healthy couples abide by. They realize that it isn’t the big vacation, the big ring, or the surprise party that maintains a happy and healthy relationship.
Read MoreIn studying relationships and the science of happiness, one of the quickest, easiest ways I’ve found to infuse a partnership with joy is encouraging the practice of gratitude.
Read More“Being guilted” is a different thing with the same emotional and physical responses. It’s more akin to shame.
Read More“But, I don’t want them to feel guilty” This is a phrase I hear over and over again in my office after someone has been deeply hurt or impacted by their partner’s behavior. There is deep pain associated with allowing someone to feel guilt or remorse about hurtful treatment of us.
Read MoreMy business is called the Art of Dating because relationship success is a combination of art and science. The science is the research backed elements driving relationship success.
Read MoreTerms like "meditation", "breathing", somatic experiencing", these may sound like individual work.
Read More“There are two types of intimate partner violence: characterological and situational,” Earnshaw explains. “When a therapist finds that characterological violence has been present, then therapy is not indicated.
Read More“Every human encounter is a cross-cultural encounter.” That phrase, said by my graduate school professor, struck with me until this day. There is so much power to it.
Read MoreTo have a healthy relationship you have to understand how your childhood is still living within you and being worked out in your adulthood. Being mindful of your patterns and wounds will help you to be more successful in navigating the challenges of life together.
Read MoreI think, quite possibly, Beyoncé wrote “Crazy in Love” to express the state of limerance. Ever heard of it?
Read MorePart 2 of the previous post. Let’s talk about overcoming the fighting pitfalls below...
Read MoreMy colleague, Ariel Stern, shared this with me awhile ago: Some fights help couples grow and some fights cause irrevocable damage. It’s not the fight that is the problem, it’s how the fight happens.
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