Crazy In Love
I think, quite possibly, Beyoncé wrote “Crazy in Love” to express the state of limerance. Ever heard of it? In the 70s Dorothy Tennov coined the term in her book “Love and Limerance” to describe the initial infatuation you feel with another person when you’re falling in love. It’s both a psychological and physical experience - obsessive thoughts, euphoria, idealizing, butterflies, risk taking and symptoms like heart palpitations, sweating, a sensation of lightness, and blushing. It’s an experience people yearn for. Those not in relationships seek it out and those that have settled into the lull of a long term stable relationship feel nostalgic over it. Limerance is the norm at the beginning of a mutually decided upon relationship. Sometimes, though, the obsessions can overcome a person and lead to stalking, or even, death ( think Romeo and Juliet). It is also a feeling that some might seek when in committed relationships that could ultimately fuel a desire to have an affair (only to find that once the “limerance” wears off that the relationship feels just as mundane as the one that was strayed from). Overall, it’s a very positive thing. It helps you to get connected and build fun and exciting memories to look back on. Do you have fond feelings of your time in “limerance” with your partner? What are they?
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