Posts in Couples/Marriage
Creating Shared Meaning

Dr. John Gottman's research found that a pivotal part of a healthy and long lasting relationship is a couple's sense of shared meaning: an explicit and implicit commitment to the  relationship and believing your partner is there to support and understand your life dreams and goals (these life dreams and goals include an understanding of the relationship). 

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If my kids survived, yours probably will too - and other reassuring wisdom from an honest grandmother.

Here is what I remember about her:

She ate salami, watched baseball on tv and swore fluently. She visited infrequently, even though she lived less than 30 miles away, and when she did come over, our house seemed to stiffen its spine.

When I conjure her image, I am not in the scene.

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This blog is bound to contain a lot of material you probably have found in other mommy blogs: Tales of extreme fatigue, piles of laundry, leaky boobs, spasmodic tears, weight gain, baby blues, hormonal rages. If the subjects are familiar, however, it is because these maternal miseries are so universal. My hope is that by sharing my experience, some of you will find comfort in knowing that there are others out there who are muddling through this adventure and at times, feeling just as overwhelmed.

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Weathering the Storm: Staying Together After the Affair

The discovery of an affair is gut wrenching. For many the pain and betrayal is too much to overcome and the relationship will never fully recover. However, relationship researchers like John Gottman and Esther Perel have found that an affair doesn’t always need to be the nail in the coffin. In fact, many of my couples have used the affair experience as a catalyst for improving and strengthening their relationship.

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