Don’t Stress About the Workbook: Suggestions for Easing the Transition to School
By: Jenny Hoving, LPC
As a therapist and former teacher, I am all too familiar with the shift that seems to come each August as stores roll out their school supplies and sweaters. For parents and students anticipating a new school year, it can feel overwhelming and contribute to family conflict. For those of us that wish summer would never end, a mindful approach can help.
Clarify your priorities, and be realistic about your goals.
There is an immense amount of pressure to get the school year off to successful start that sets the tone for the rest of the year. In reality, growth takes time. When considering your child’s summer learning, be clear about what’s in both their best interest and yours. This might look like easing up on flash card practice, reading together before bed instead of finishing the summer reading list, or letting go of the responsibility you feel to be sure your high schooler completes their summer assignments in advance.
If your child struggles with focusing, approaching difficult tasks, or time management, know that taking small steps to build those skills are likely more valuable than the content of the task itself.
Consider potential challenges.
This can be a good time to reflect on what your child might need to feel supported during this transition. Children who feel anxious about school often benefit from incorporating activities that help them to gradually approach the source of their discomfort. This could include meeting a friend at the school playground, dropping of bagels and saying hello to the school office staff, writing an email to connect with a teacher, or checking out the school website to see what clubs are available.
Soak it Up.
It’s normal to feel worried about an upcoming transition. Allow yourself to feel the full extent of your feelings, and still, choose your response mindfully rather than reacting. Instead of turning all of your attention to school preparation, continue to prioritize things you and your child value and enjoy, like adventure, rest, and relationships.
About the author:
Jenny Hoving, LPC is a therapist serving West Chester, Pennsylvania. Jenny specializes in helping adolescents with issues surrounding body image and self esteem. She also has a special focus on supporting people who struggle with anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder.