There is so much advice out there on how to have a healthy relationships. Some of it is great but a lot of it is really misguided. Last week, I asked my instagram community (@phillycouplestherapist) to tell me about the worst marriage advice they’ve received. There was so much engagement with this prompt, that it seemed appropriate to dedicate an entire post to it.
I received the following responses:
“That your partner should automatically “get” you and understand your wants and needs, otherwise they are not a good partner”
“Worst advice I ever heard is to “never go to bed angry”
“A relationship is 50/50”
“Everything I’ve read in Cosmo”
“You will overcome this, don’t worry”
“Don’t be needy”
“Love conquers all”
“Time heals all wounds”
I wasn’t surprised with these responses because they hit the nail on the head in terms of bad marriage advice. These phrases are often thrown around and I see their impact in my therapy room. This week, I am going to debunk each myth one by one. Follow along with the blog or click the links below as they are posted :-).
- Your partner should automatically “get you”.
Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT is a marriage therapist in Pennsylvania. She supports individuals and couples to develop healthy relationships.