Losing someone important to you is a pain like no other. It comes in waves, sometimes hitting you when you least expect it. During it’s most painful moments you might wonder if you can even survive it or if it will ever become bearable. And, in the same breath you might hope it never goes away. Because, you fear, that if it goes away then maybe it means you have forgotten.
And perhaps, you already feel like some people have forgotten. Or maybe you are worried about burdening others around you, so you just don’t talk about it anymore. That can feel lonely and isolating.
You might find that some of your friends surprise you with their distance or their avoidance. And others surprise you with their kindness and warmth.
Sometimes, you might feel really mad. And other times you are just sad. or helpless. Or maybe even numb.
And sometimes you might think something negative about the person who has died. Maybe you are frustrated with them or a bad memory comes up. And then you feel guilty.
And then in small moments you feel joy. And then maybe you feel guilty.
And, you wonder…. am I remembering this person enough? How can I keep them with me but also how can I keep the grief at bay?
You hear advice and prayers and thoughts from everyone. And sometimes it might bring you some peace and other times it might make you feel misunderstood or minimized.
Maybe, you have felt all of these things. And maybe you have thought none of these things. Because grief is so very different for everyone. We want to be there with you as you experience it in your own way.
While everyone does grieve differently, there are also some common reactions that people have to the death of a loved one. This is the good news. It means that we can help you learn to predict how you might feel and prepare for those feelings. These reactions don’t follow any linear path, but they seem to be universal for most people. Our therapists can guide you through the waves and help you to manage them in ways that feel better. We do not want you to let go, however, our hope for you is that you are able to find ways to shift the pain.
We can help you to remember your loved one and maintain a relationship with him or her. We can help you process what the relationship meant to you. In order to support you in the grief we will provide you with tools to self soothe and to understand your experience of it all.
We would be honored to hear your story and the story of your loved one.
If you are grieving we are here to help.
Philadelphia Grief Therapy