Seeking Therapy After Divorce
Divorce is an extremely stressful period for many couples. It can be drawn out in litigation, with lawyers encouraging each of their clients to run the other through the ringer to get the best settlement. In the end, the emotions that arise post-divorce; the fear, the uncertainty, and the anxiety, can be crippling for both parties. Feelings of inadequacy and abandonment often arise, especially when the relationship was codependent. Both parties face major changes and new responsibilities. Beyond that, there’s a grieving process for the future that could have been. This is precisely why so many seek a therapist to help them sort through their issues.
#1. You’re Feeling Depressed
Depression is perfectly natural after a divorce, but it impacts your life in various insidious ways. If you are no longer taking care of your personal hygiene, have an interest in activities you once enjoyed, or find it more difficult to meet your responsibilities, therapy can help.
#2. You Feel Responsible for the Failure of the Marriage
Whether you are, or you aren’t, can never be entirely determined, but gaining some perspective on what went wrong, and how to prevent future relationship issues is something post-divorce therapy can help with.
#3. You Feel Overwhelmed By Your New Life / Responsibilities
Divorce is a major life change, and will result in major upheaval in terms of responsibilities.
#4. You Feel Uncertain About Your Future
Some recent divorcees feel lost with all the changes taking place in their lives. Having someone to speak to about that definitely helps.
#5. You Feel Hopeless About Love or Undeserving of Love
This happens to so many after the failure of a relationship. Working through those feelings of feeling undeserving of love will help make you more receptive to future relationships.
#6. You Feel Angry At Your Former Spouse
You may have every reason to feel angry, but being able to move forward, especially if there are children involved will be necessary.
#7. You Have Trust Issues with the Opposite Sex
Again, this is perfectly natural, but it’s something you can work through to experience happiness in the future.
#8. You’re Concerned About Custody or Visitation rights
Your anxiety in this regard will only sap your energy and make it more difficult to make hard choices. Working through those issues helps.
#9. You Suffered Abuse at the Hands of Your Former Spouse
Those that suffered abuse at the hands of their former spouse will likely feel and experience all of the first 8 warning signs in various degrees. It’s essential to have someone to talk to outside of a friend circle to manage the pain and rage.
#10. You Were Abusive Toward Your Former Spouse
Abusive former spouses often learned abuse in an abusive family. While it’s important to know that abuse can never be taken back, we can learn to control our impulses, and move forward as better people.
Have you decided to divorce your spouse? Do you need help with this process? Contact your Family Lawyer today at https://www.cmlaw1.com/
The above article is a guest post provided by cmlaw1.com. At times, A Better Life Therapy posts blogs provided by outside contributors.
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